Marriage- a different perspective

There is a lot talked about women, their power, their capabilities, their energy levels, the sacrifices they make…and so on and so forth. Before you make that face, let me clear myself, I do agree with all this, but we also need to accept the fact that we owe a lot to our Dad, brother, male friends and colleagues.

Few days back our team was discussing about marriage and the sacrifices that women need to make. There is a guy in our team who is getting married…Err…it was his marriage today (so this is for him in a way). For a moment he was quiet. I could sense that the talk is making him feel uncomfortable. The girls in the team were like, “a girl leaves her house and goes to a husband’s house, adjusts with the in-laws, tries to please everyone in the family and keep them united, sacrifices her career for her kids.”

Yes what they said was true…I did it…every other girl around us does this at some point of her time. We always tend to look at what the girl goes through…but have we ever thought what the guy must be feeling, what are his concerns, what are his fears. We seldom think in these lines.

My colleague, let’s call him P, I thought of asking him what was going in this mind right now as there were only 10 days left for the marriage. What he said made me think a lot. I don’t know if all the guys think alike, but here is what he said.

“Gayu, it’s a mixed feeling.I don’t know how to express that in words. I know this girl for last four years and I love her like crazy. We both were waiting for this day eagerly…but as the countdown has begun there are certain things which bother me. I miss my Mom a lot when she goes to her native place for few days…and here my love is going to leave her parents house and come and stay with me. I know she will adjust to everything….but deep down, I feel bad when she approves of something just because she wants to see my Mom happy. I am lucky that ways to get her in my life. It’s difficult for a guy Gayu, to make a decision when it comes to the two most important people in his life. One side it’s my Mom…and on the other my wife, my love…they both are like my two eyes…and I need them both for I cannot visualize a life without both of them.

These four years have taught me a lot. I now know that my wife will crib at times…but that doesn’t mean that she doesn’t love me or my family. It’s a momentary vent out…and I will be calm at that point. I just hope that I can keep her happy. It’s a big responsibility for me…and I hope that I will be able to fulfill her wishes.”

I was speechless…I never knew a guy could think so much. Today my colleague got married and I wish the couple a happy married life.

What do you think about this???? Do share your views…I am listening…!!!!

Have a nice weekend..!!!
Gayu

3 thoughts on “Marriage- a different perspective

  1. Gayu,

    It is true that a girl makes more sacrifices when she moves out of her safe zone, parental house to join her new family. There are hic-up initially which sensible persons overcome but what he said is so true. In the tussle between wife and mother it is he who has to bear the most.

    Take care

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